陳德彰

● 塑料情

“塑料情”也稱“塑料友誼”。此詞源于2017年3月關(guān)于新加坡組合BY2的采訪視頻，作為雙胞胎姐妹的二人互損互懟，暗流涌動，被網(wǎng)友們吐槽為“虛假的姐妹情誼”“塑料花姐妹情”。塑料花雖然看上去很美，永不凋謝，有的甚至可以亂真，但它畢竟是假的，沒有香味，更沒有靈魂?！八芰锨椤痹谂援?dāng)中較為常見，故有“塑料花姐妹情”“塑料姐妹”“塑料閨蜜”等說法。看起來親密無間的兩個人，可能很多時候心口不一，嘴上說的和心里想的不一樣。有時候是為了面子，有時候是為了利益，只能表面相安無事，其實(shí)感情早已變味，說翻臉就翻臉。俗話說“三個女人一臺戲”，一些女生之間勾心斗角，維持虛與委蛇的面子社交。

有時，“塑料情”也用于男性之間。這樣的“塑料情”朋友，表面上說可以為你兩肋插刀，但遇到矛盾時可能會倒插你兩刀。這種情誼看起來一片祥和，但與這樣的朋友打交道只是在白白消耗你的精力。

“塑料情”有時也是一種調(diào)侃，用以自嘲，如：我跟他只是“塑料情”。

Plastic Friendly Sentiments

“Plastic friendly sentiments” is also known as“plastic friendship.” This term originated from two videos of the interview on March， 2017 of the Singapores BY2 band formed by Miko and Yumi. As twin sisters， the two of them mock and lash out at each other. Thus netizens call this kind of friendship “fake affection of sisters” or“plastic affection between sisters.” Plastic flower， though it looks beautiful and never withers away， and sometimes can almost look genuine， is after all artificial， which has no fragrance， let alone soul. “Plastic friendly sentiments”is comparatively common among girls. There are “plastic sisters，” “plastic bosom friends，” etc. They may look very intimate and thick with each other， however， they may talk one way and think another or say what they do not think， sometimes just to save face， and sometimes for their own interest. They superficially keep peace with each other but their real affection may have turned sour. They may fall out or even turn hostile all of a sudden. There is a common saying： “Three females are enough to put up a drama.” Some girls seem to resort to deception and fraud in social interaction. They deal with each other courteously but without sincerity.

“Plastic friendly sentiments” is also used to refer to boys who on the surface assure the other party that they will even risk their own lives for their friends but in fact may give them a stab from behind instead. Such affection may look auspicious， but it is a waste of ones energy dealing with such a friend.

However， “plastic friendly sentiments” is sometimes used as a kind of mockery. For example， someone might say， between him and me exist only “plastic friendly sentiments.”

● 氣球式社交

這種社交關(guān)系頗像氣球，容易吹起，也容易泄氣，戳一下就破，美麗卻不可長久。該情形在當(dāng)下的年輕人社交中頗為常見。現(xiàn)代人的社交關(guān)系很簡單，你我相識在一場活動，兩人都是獨(dú)自前往，沒有伙伴有點(diǎn)兒尷尬，活動上迅速結(jié)識了彼此，加為好友并且聊得很投機(jī)，告別后便再無聯(lián)系。越來越多的年輕人開始習(xí)慣于“氣球式社交”，迅速熟絡(luò)又迅速冷淡，交流時不用太走心，不需花心思對這段關(guān)系進(jìn)行維護(hù)，一不小心關(guān)系破裂也沒關(guān)系，畢竟若太過認(rèn)真，你就輸了。

《社交尷尬癥》一書的作者、美國心理學(xué)家泰·田代認(rèn)為：“社交的好處是能提醒我們對歸屬感的需求，讓我們知道自己需要成為群體的一員，并獲得群體的支持?！倍皻馇蚴缴缃弧彼坪醪⒉皇且粋€長久的方式。

北京師范大學(xué)心理學(xué)院副教授黃四林認(rèn)為，當(dāng)前在年輕人尤其是大學(xué)生中出現(xiàn)這種現(xiàn)象，跟年輕人交往的目的以及維持這種關(guān)系的需要有關(guān)。有時雖然建立了聯(lián)系，但由于沒有必要的事情交流，也就沒有了維護(hù)關(guān)系的需求，但這對年輕人的社交意愿影響不大。淺表式的交流已經(jīng)將現(xiàn)代人的交際內(nèi)容徹底改變。有網(wǎng)友評論說：“我們很少討論自己生活以外的話題，不再習(xí)慣氣氛比較沉重的思想交流。尋找一個志趣相投的談話對象是如此之難?！被蛟S，與其擁有“氣球式”的快速社交關(guān)系，不如放慢腳步，長久而美好的聯(lián)系總是好過“一戳就破”。

Balloon-Like Social Intercourse

Such relationship is like a balloon， easy to blow larger but at the same time easy to bust. It breaks at a prick， and its beauty never lasts long. This is the fashion of present social intercourse of young people. It is easy for people to get to know each in social gatherings. They usually go there by themselves， but it is somewhat awkward without a companion， so they might add each other as good friends on social media and would chat cheerfully. But afterwards they may simply have no contact with each other. More and more young people have got used to “balloonlike social intercourse.” Quick indifference follows quick chumming up. One neednt be mindful in such communication， nor try to think ways to maintain such relations as they do not care when it breaks. You will lose if you are too serious about it.

The author of Awkward， Ty Tashiro， a psychologist in America， holds that “The benefits of social intercourse lie in the fact that it reminds us that we need the sense of belonging and tells us that everyone must be a member of a group from which he can get support.” But bloom-like social intercourse does not seem to be of a lasting mode.

Huang Silin， an associate professor at the Beijing Normal University， thinks that such phenomenon among young people， especially among college students， has much to do with their purpose of intercourse and the need to maintain such relations. Sometimes， though they have set up WeChat contact， they have no need to maintain it as there is nothing that demands intercourse and this does not have much impact on their willingness to keep it. Shallow intercourse has radically changed the content. Some people say， “We seldom discuss topics beyond our daily life and are no longer accustomed to serious conversations in a comparatively more serious atmosphere. It has become so difficult to find someone to talk about aspiration and interest.” So perhaps instead of having “balloon-like” quick social relations， it is better to slow down and try to establish lasting and better relationships.