“虎媽”源自《虎媽戰(zhàn)歌》。該書介紹了耶魯大學(xué)華裔教授蔡美兒如何以中國式教育方法管教兩個女兒的故事，她要求女兒每科成績拿A、不準(zhǔn)看電視、琴練不好就不準(zhǔn)吃飯等。“虎媽”由此登上了《時代》周刊封面，“虎媽”的教育方法引起美國關(guān)于中美教育方法的大討論。下面我們以另一種方式呈現(xiàn)中西方關(guān)于教育的觀點，看看它們?nèi)绾卧诖笈鲎仓胁脸龌鸹ò伞?/p>

【Abstract】This paper makes a comparison of family education between China and American based on a short novel written by a Chinese American woman called tiger mother. It is well known that family is the first school in childrens life. Family education often play a big part in physical development﹑nature talent and shape characters of children. Chinese parents ruled childrens life， arranged their matters and concerned about the grade scores. While American parents draw scant attention on childrens scores， and seems to be respect of childrens own thoughts， pay attention to ability development and intelligence advancement. We could aware of the merits in our family education from the comparison of family education between China and American based on tiger mothers educational strategy.

Key words： China， America， family education， difference， parents， children， education

Merits of Chinese family education

Chinese contemporary family education is greatly influenced by traditional Chinese culture and Chinese custom. It is also conditioned by the feudal family system. Most of people in China think that parents are rulers. Parents are supreme rulers. In one family only what the parents say goes， children have to do as they were told and have no rights to choose what they want. Most of the parents in China do not concern their childrens feeling， because they think what they do for the children is just the childrens needs. I am at the opinion that most of us oblivious one important aspect， that is children are not mature and what they want to do not always right and good for themselves， for example， in tiger mothers novel， her daughter want to give up the violin course just because she wants to play， if her mother respect her choice， the little girl will not become a outstanding violinist. In tiger mothers mind， her daughters are not allowed to stay night outside or go to friends party， she thinks that he who lies with dogs will rise with fleas， and her daughters may become bad by the harmful effect of society. I quite agree with her thoughts because the effect of environment for children is extremely great and if parents do not pay attention to who their children are play with the aftermath would be serious.

Merits of American family education

First： respect children， treat them equal. American parents have a high respect for their childrens idea. In order to cultivate childrens self-respect and self-confidence， parents will squat down when they talk with children. American children have the rights to do what they want， their parents never control them， what they will do is just a simple advice. Secondly： focus on independency. The most difference of family education between China and America is that American parents pay more attention to the development of childrens independence. Because they think children must form a self-supporting will and the ability to live by themselves since their childhood. Therefore， it is no strange to see many American children washing clothes， cooking and weeding. Third： economic independence. In America few parents will give pin money to children. Parents encourage children to work and earn money. According to statistics， about 54% American children can not get pin money from parents. American parents give children enough opportunity to contract with society which allows them to be fully trained in various matters since they were young. They think part-time job or something like that can gain their childrens experience and capability to adjust society.

Personal opinions

We may know from what has been said above that both Chinese family education and the American counterpart are have the merits in different aspects， we should learn from the merits of American family education and absorb the essence of Chinese family education.

Now， please let me put forward some opinions to our family education.

First： stress on capability cultivation. Our Chinese parents are excessively cared about their childrens study. In order to make children have good points in study， they do not let children do anything except studying. This leads to the ability shortage of children in daily life. From my point of view， our parents should learn from American parents on family education to offer more opportunities to let children contact with society. Only the child who has tasted bitter without parents protection can gain the capability and confidence to adjust society. Secondly： respect childrens choice if the choice is reasonable. In China， children just like parents private property. In parents minds， children should be obedient to them. They make the decision for children and never thought of their feeling. This may lead to a bad result that is children are lack of interest in everything because all the things are arranged by their parents. While the American parents do not put pressure on their children. They believe that children have the right to decide something by themselves. American Parents and children have equal at home. Chinese parents should learn from the experience of American parents. Third： encouraging children. I always see a parent criticizing her child in public but never see a parent who praising her child in public. If the criticism last a long time， the children will be self-contempt. When they face difficulty they can not perform well. American parents encouraged their children to do anything they like. If the child finished it， they will say kind words of praise. This will help a lot on developing childrens confidence.

Conclusion

In this paper we have explored the difference of family education between China and America. From above we can see the Chinese family education have lots of merits and the American family education is also not bad. We should not only carry forward the good and traditional part of Chinese family education but also learn from the modern American family education. In this way， our next generation shall grow up healthy and strong.

編輯在線：每一位父母都有一個望子成龍的夢，都希望自己的孩子能夠成人成才。然而，什么樣的家庭教育才能實現(xiàn)這樣的目標(biāo)？在大力提倡賞識教育的今天，“虎媽”們橫空出世，再次將“棍棒教育”擺在我們面前。當(dāng)現(xiàn)代教育遭遇棍棒教育，我們該何去何從？

“虎媽”，“狼爸”甚至“鷹爸”，棍棒教育呼聲再起。用高壓、嚴(yán)厲得近乎殘酷的教育方式，來促使孩子成才，這樣的做法真的對嗎？孩子考進(jìn)了名校，就一定意味著成功嗎？

所謂棍棒教育，“虎媽”和“狼爸”對孩子施加的是一種強悍的管制，如果據(jù)此來管教孩子就能成功，這也未免太過簡單了。

教育的成功并不僅僅意味著孩子考上名校，教育的核心在于培養(yǎng)孩子健全的人格、良好的品德和自我的能力?！盎尅焙汀袄前帧保?，且僅是個別的案例，不具有代表性，也沒有盲目跟風(fēng)的價值。他們的教育方式無法復(fù)制也不應(yīng)當(dāng)復(fù)制。