Put your phone down

放下手機(jī)

Maintaining eye contact when someone is talking will help build trust because it shows genuine interest， but thats hard to do if you keep glancing at your phone or scanning around the room.

別人說話時(shí)，與他保持眼神交流有助于建立信任，因?yàn)檫@表示你對他說的話真的感興趣。但是如果你一直看手機(jī)或掃視房間，你就很難與別人建立起信任關(guān)系。

Uncross your arms and legs

不要交叉雙臂或雙腿

You might only be crossing your arms and legs， say， because youre cold， but that stance closes you off. Make sure your body looks open—youll look open to hearing others thoughts.

你把雙臂或雙腿交叉起來，可能只是因?yàn)槟阌X得冷，但這個(gè)姿勢把你封閉起來了。確保你的身體是舒展開的，這樣你看起來很樂意傾聽別人的想法。

Keep your palms open

張開手掌

Pointing your fingers looks like an accusation， and clenching your fist makes you seem angry， even if youre just using those gestures for emphasis. If you open your fingers， people will in turn be open to you. If youre using your hand to emphasize and its an open palm， that shows openness.

用手指指指點(diǎn)點(diǎn)看起來像是一種指責(zé)，握拳使你看起來很憤怒，即使你只是用這些手勢來表示強(qiáng)調(diào)。如果你張開手掌，人們也會反過來對你敞開心扉。如果你用手勢表示強(qiáng)調(diào)，并且你的手掌是張開的，這表示你很坦率。

Sit down to other peoples level

把座位調(diào)低至別人座位的高度

Sitting in a higher chair than other people indicates dominance over them—which is great if you want to seem more powerful， but not so good if youre trying to build trust.

坐的椅子比別人的高表示對對方的控制，如果你想要顯得更強(qiáng)大，可以這樣做，但如果你試圖獲得別人的信任，這不是一個(gè)好方法。

Limit your note-taking

少做筆記

Sometimes notes are necessary when youre talking to a coworker， but make sure all that jotting doesnt get in the way of your eye contact.

跟同事說話有時(shí)需要做筆記，但要確保簡短的筆記不會妨礙你們的眼神交流。

Touch （appropriately）

觸碰（適度地）

Lightly touching a friend on the hand can indicate your support for that person. A touch on the elbow or shoulder communicates more empathy than saying “Oh， Im so sorry”.

輕輕觸碰朋友的手表明你支持對方。觸碰對方的肘部或肩膀比說“哦，我很遺憾”更能表達(dá)同情。

Smile and nod

微笑和點(diǎn)頭

Nodding and smiling while someone is talking shows youre listening， which indicates youre interested in what the person is saying.

別人說話時(shí)，點(diǎn)頭和微笑表示你在聽，這表明你對對方所說的話感興趣。

Word Study

genuine /'d?enju?n/ adj. 真正的;真實(shí)的

The reforms are motivated by a genuine concern for the disabled.

stance /st?ns/ n. 站姿

emphasis /'emf?s?s/ n. 強(qiáng)調(diào);重視

The emphasis is very much on learning the spoken language.

jotting /'d??t??/ n. 簡短的筆記