文/杰布·布什 譯/杜磊 審訂/肖維青

Jeb Bush gave a touching eulogy to his iconic mother on Saturday which included jokes and tear-jerking anecdotes about her 73-year-old romance with his father. Here is Jeb’s eulogy in full. 周六，杰布·布什為大眾心中的偶像、自己的母親發(fā)布了一篇悼詞，回顧了父母73年伉儷情深的點(diǎn)滴小事，不乏說(shuō)笑，也催人淚下。以下是悼詞全文：

1芭芭拉·布什（1925—2018），美國(guó)前總統(tǒng)老布什的夫人,于2018年4月17日去世。2018年4月21日，杰布·布什在芭芭拉的葬禮上發(fā)表了這篇悼詞。杰布·布什曾任第43屆佛羅里達(dá)州州長(zhǎng)，是喬治·H.W.布什和芭芭拉·布什夫婦的次子。Jeb是其昵稱(chēng)而非本名，是他的全名John Ellis Bush三個(gè)詞的首字母縮寫(xiě)。

As I stand here today to share a few words about my mom, I feel her looming22 loom隱現(xiàn)；臨近。presence behind me.

And I know exactly what she’s thinking right now. “Jeb, keep it short. Don’t drag this out. People have already heard enough remarks already and most of all,don’t get weepy. Remember, I’ve spent decades laughing and living a life with these people!”

[2] And that is true.

Barbara Bush filled our lives with

今天，我站在這里，想和諸位聊聊我母親。此刻，我感到她隱約在我身后。

我非常清楚她此刻在想什么——“杰布，長(zhǎng)話短說(shuō)，別拖拖拉拉的。各方評(píng)說(shuō)，大家已經(jīng)聽(tīng)得夠多了。最要緊的是，別哭哭啼啼的。記住，這些可都是幾十年來(lái)和我一道歡聲笑語(yǔ)、共同生活的人吶！”

[2]確實(shí)如此。laughter and joy and in the case of her family, she was our teacher and role model on how to live a life of purpose and meaning.

[3] On behalf of our family we want to thank the thousands and thousands of expressions of condolence and love for our precious mother.

[4] We want to thank mom’s caregivers for their compassionate care in the last months of her life. I want to thank Neil and Maria for their next door family love of our parents and thank John and Suzanne for their eloquent words. Meacham3Jon Meacham喬恩·米徹姆，總統(tǒng)歷史學(xué)家，芭芭拉·布什多年的好友。, it might have been a little long but it was beautiful.

[5] We want to thank Russ and Laura for their friendship and pastoral care of our parents and we want to thank all that are gathered here to celebrate the life of Barbara Bush.

[6] It is appropriate to express gratitude because we learned to do that at a very early age.

You see our mom was our first and most important teacher. “Sit up, look people in the eye, say please and thank you, do your homework, quit whining and stop complaining, eat your broccoli”.

Yes, Dad she said that.

[7] The little things we learned became habits and they led to bigger things like, be kind. Always tell the

芭芭拉·布什讓我們的生活充滿(mǎn)歡聲笑語(yǔ)。在家庭中，她是我們的老師，也是我們的榜樣，教導(dǎo)我們?nèi)松绾芜^(guò)得有目標(biāo)、有意義。

[3]我謹(jǐn)代表全家，感謝千千萬(wàn)萬(wàn)向我們珍愛(ài)的母親致辭表達(dá)哀悼和愛(ài)意的朋友。

[4]我們要感謝護(hù)理人員在母親生命最后數(shù)個(gè)月間對(duì)她的貼心照顧；我要感謝尼爾和瑪麗亞給予父母的親情陪伴；感謝約翰與蘇珊娜動(dòng)人的致辭。米徹姆,你的發(fā)言也許有點(diǎn)長(zhǎng)了，但很精彩。

[5]感謝拉斯與勞拉的友情，以及他們給予我父母的教牧關(guān)懷，感謝各位一齊趕到現(xiàn)場(chǎng)來(lái)紀(jì)念芭芭拉·布什的一生。

[6]我們應(yīng)該表達(dá)感謝，因?yàn)槲覀兒苄〉臅r(shí)候就學(xué)到了這一點(diǎn)。

母親是我們第一位也是最重要的一位老師。“坐直了，看著別人的眼睛，要說(shuō)‘請(qǐng)’和‘謝謝’，做功課去，少訴苦，別發(fā)牢騷，吃掉你的西蘭花?！?/p>

沒(méi)錯(cuò)，爸爸，媽媽說(shuō)過(guò)這些話。

[7]這些小事，我們學(xué)會(huì)了之后就變成了習(xí)慣，最終成就了更好的品質(zhì)，比如要與人truth. Never disparage4disparage貶低；輕視。anyone. Serve others.

Treat everyone as you would want to be treated and love your God with your heart and soul. What a blessing to have a teacher like that 24/7. Now to be clear,her students weren’t perfect. That’s an understatement.

[8] Mom got us through our dif fi cult times with consistent, take-it-to-thebank5take it to the bank絕對(duì)肯定，打包票。, unconditional but tough love.

She called her style, a benevolent dictatorship. But honestly, it wasn’t always benevolent.

[9] When our children got a little older, they would spend more time visiting their Gampy and Ganny6Gampy and Ganny是布什家族孫輩親切地稱(chēng)呼老布什與芭芭拉的一種方式。.

All it would take would be one week and when they came home, all of a sudden they were pitching in7pitch in熱情投入；拼命地干。around the house. They didn’t fight as much and they were actually nice to be with.

[10] I attribute this to the unbridled8unbridled沒(méi)有拘束的；猛烈的。fear of the ganny lecture9lecture（冗長(zhǎng)的）教訓(xùn)，訓(xùn)斥。and the habit forming effects of better behavior taking hold. Even in her 90s, mom could strike fear into her grandchildren, nephews,nieces and her children, if someone didn’t behave.為善，永遠(yuǎn)講真話，永遠(yuǎn)不要貶損任何一個(gè)人，要服務(wù)他人。

以你希望別人對(duì)待你的方式來(lái)對(duì)待別人，全心全意地敬愛(ài)你的上帝。有這樣一位老師全天候在身邊教你，是多么幸福的一件事！但現(xiàn)在有一點(diǎn)要說(shuō)明——她的學(xué)生們并不完美。這話講得還算客氣了。

[8]媽媽用她的愛(ài)幫我們渡過(guò)人生種種難關(guān)，她的愛(ài)始終如一、篤定且毫無(wú)保留，但她也很?chē)?yán)厲。

她把這種教子之法叫作“仁慈的獨(dú)裁”，但說(shuō)實(shí)話，她的獨(dú)裁并非總是仁慈的。

[9]等我們的孩子長(zhǎng)大一點(diǎn)的時(shí)候，他們花更多時(shí)間去看望祖父母（外祖父母）。

只消一周，回到家的時(shí)候，他們就突然懂得在家里幫一把手了，也不打架了，簡(jiǎn)直成了乖孩子。

[10]我覺(jué)得這要?dú)w功于讓孩子們深深忌憚的祖母訓(xùn)話，以及良好行為日漸強(qiáng)化養(yǎng)成了習(xí)慣。就算九十高齡，母親也照樣不失其威儀，如果孫輩、侄子侄女乃至子女有誰(shuí)行事不妥，她會(huì)讓他們感到害怕。

[11] There were no safe spaces10safe space（在大學(xué)校園內(nèi)）被排斥、被邊緣化的人群（特別是少數(shù)族裔人群、性少數(shù)人群等）聚集在一起創(chuàng)造的“安全空間”。or microaggressions11= micro-aggression微攻擊，指（針對(duì)少數(shù)族裔或邊緣人群）非常細(xì)微且不易覺(jué)察的攻擊行為。allowed with Barbara Pierce Bush.

But in the end, every grandchild knew their Ganny loved them.

[12] We learned a lot more from our mom and our Ganny. We learned not to take ourselves too seriously.

We learned that humor is a joy that should be shared. Some of my greatest memories are participating in our family dinners when mom would get into it,most of the time with George W, as you might imagine, and having us all laughing to tears.

[13] We learned to strive to be genuine and authentic by the best role model in the world. Her authentic, plastic pearls121989年芭芭拉身著藍(lán)色禮服、項(xiàng)戴三層仿真珠鏈出現(xiàn)在公眾視野中，三層“塑料珍珠項(xiàng)鏈”迅速成為一種美國(guó)時(shí)尚，而戴著珠鏈的芭芭拉形象也就此深入人心。據(jù)這串珠鏈的設(shè)計(jì)師后來(lái)講述，真品珠鏈價(jià)值高達(dá)20 萬(wàn)美元，而仿品價(jià)值只有600美元。.Her not coloring her hair—by the way,she was beautiful till the day she died.

[14] Her hugging of an HIV aids patient at a time when her own mother wouldn’t do it. Her standing by her man with a little rhyming poetry13美國(guó)第42任副總統(tǒng)沃爾特·蒙代爾（Walter Mondale）于1984年7月12日提名女性政治人物杰拉爾丁·費(fèi)拉羅（Geraldine Ferraro）為民主黨副總統(tǒng)候選人，而時(shí)任副總統(tǒng)的老布什也在謀求連任。當(dāng)時(shí)，蒙代爾不斷向里根總統(tǒng)強(qiáng)調(diào)費(fèi)拉羅與其丈夫家世的富有，媒體利用這點(diǎn)調(diào)侃芭芭拉，芭芭拉則在慍怒之中輕率地用一個(gè)跟rich押韻的詞形容費(fèi)拉羅。后來(lái)，意識(shí)到言語(yǔ)有失，芭芭拉及時(shí)向費(fèi)拉羅道歉澄清。因?yàn)檫@件事，芭芭拉被布什全家人戲稱(chēng)為“桂冠詩(shī)人”。in the

[11]對(duì)于芭芭拉·皮爾斯·布什夫人而言，沒(méi)有“安全空間” ，也不允許“微攻擊”。

但到頭來(lái)，每個(gè)孫輩都知道她老人家對(duì)他們摯愛(ài)之深。

[12]我們從母親也就是孩子的祖母身上學(xué)到很多東西，學(xué)會(huì)了不要太把自己當(dāng)回事。

我們也學(xué)到了幽默之樂(lè)應(yīng)與人分享這個(gè)道理。我回想起了好幾次家庭聚餐上，母親都會(huì)幽默一把，常常是和喬治·W一起，令全家人都笑到飆淚，這些是我最美好的回憶。

[13]我們學(xué)會(huì)努力去做實(shí)實(shí)在在的人，在這一方面母親是世界上最好的榜樣。她的珍珠是真正的塑料做的，她不染頭發(fā)——順便說(shuō)一句，她直到去世那一天都是美麗的。

[14]她擁抱艾滋病病毒攜帶者，而那時(shí)連患者自己的母親都不愿這么做。1984年大選，1984 election. In a thousand other ways,Barbara Pierce Bush was real and that’s why people admired her and loved her so.

[15] Finally, our family has had front row seat14have front-row seat本意是說(shuō)在參與活動(dòng)、看戲或其他表演的時(shí)候近距離親歷現(xiàn)場(chǎng)。這份悼詞的作者杰布用此語(yǔ)意在強(qiáng)調(diào)家庭中父母的恩愛(ài)足以作為子孫的表率。for the most amazing love story.

Through a multitude of moves, from New Haven to Odessa to Ventura, to Bakers fi eld, to Compton, to Midland, to Houston, to DC, to New York, to DC, to Beijing, to DC, to Houston, to DC, back to Houston and Kennebunkport, their love was a constant in our lives.

[16] My dad is a phenomenal15phenomenal了不起的；非凡的。letter writer and he would write mom on their wedding anniversaries which totalled an amazing 73 years.

[17] Here’s one of them written on January 6, 1994.

Will you marry me? Oops, I forgot we did that 49 years ago. I was very happy on that day in 1945 but I am even happier today.

You have given me joy that few men know. You have made our boys into men by balling them out16ball out〈美口〉痛罵, 訓(xùn)斥。and then, right away, by loving them.

You’ve helped Doro be the sweetest,greatest daughter in the whole wide她用一首押韻的小詩(shī)支持自己的丈夫。不管做什么事，芭芭拉·皮爾斯·布什都是那樣真實(shí)，這就是人們敬愛(ài)她的原因。

[15]最終，我們這個(gè)家見(jiàn)證了最偉大的愛(ài)情奇跡。

經(jīng)歷了許多次搬家，從紐哈芬、奧德薩到溫杜拉，到貝克斯菲爾德，到康普頓，到米德蘭，到休斯頓，到華盛頓，到紐約，到華盛頓，到北京，到華盛頓，到休斯頓，到華盛頓，再回到休斯頓與肯尼幫克港。不管輾轉(zhuǎn)到哪里，父母之間的愛(ài)恒久不變。

[16]我父親擅長(zhǎng)寫(xiě)信是出了名的，每逢結(jié)婚紀(jì)念日，他都會(huì)給母親寫(xiě)信一封，七十三載竟不輟一年。

[17]下面一封信寫(xiě)于1994年1月6日：

你愿意嫁給我么？哎呀，我都忘了，我們結(jié)婚49年了。1945年的今天，我很幸福，但今天我比那時(shí)還要幸福。

無(wú)人知曉你到底賦予了我多少快樂(lè)。你嚴(yán)愛(ài)有加，把我們的兒子們從男孩教養(yǎng)成為男人。

你將朵拉培養(yǎng)成為全世界world.

I have climbed perhaps the highest mountain in the world but even that cannot hold a candle to17cannot hold a candle to遠(yuǎn)不如，不能與……相比。being Barbara’s husband.

Mom used to tell me, “Now, George,don’t walk ahead.” Little did she know I was only trying to keep up, keep up with Barbara Pierce from Rye, New York.

I love you.

[18] The last time mom went into the hospital, I think Dad got sick on purpose so that he could be with her.

[19] That’s my theory at least cause literally a day later he showed up with an illness. He came into her room when she was sleeping and held her hand. His hair was standing straight up, he had on a mask to improve his breathing, he was wearing a hospital gown—in other words, he looked like hell.

[20] Mom opened her eyes and said,“My God George, you are devastatingly handsome!”

Every nurse, doctor, staffer had to run to the hallway because they all started crying.

[21] I hope you can see why we think our mom and our dad are teachers and models for our entire family and for many others.

[22] Finally, the last time I was with her, I asked her about dying. Was she ready to go? Was she sad? Without最善良、最了不起的女兒。

也許我已經(jīng)爬上了或許世界上最高的一座山峰，但即便如此，也遠(yuǎn)不及做你的丈夫。

我媽媽跟我講過(guò)：“好了，喬治，不要走在前面?！彼静恢赖氖牵抑徊贿^(guò)是盡力跟上紐約里埃的芭芭拉 ·皮爾斯罷了。

我愛(ài)你。

[18]母親最后一次住院，我感到爸爸是為了和媽媽在一起才故意生病的。

[19]至少我是這樣看的，因?yàn)閶寢寗傔M(jìn)醫(yī)院一天，爸爸也緊跟著病倒了。母親睡熟時(shí)，他來(lái)到母親的病房，緊握她的手。此時(shí)的爸爸，頭發(fā)豎起，因呼吸困難戴著氧氣面罩，穿著病號(hào)服，可以說(shuō)他看起來(lái)糟透了。

[20]母親一睜開(kāi)雙眼就說(shuō)道，“我的天哪，喬治，你簡(jiǎn)直帥爆了！”

見(jiàn)到此情此景，在場(chǎng)護(hù)士、醫(yī)生、護(hù)工都跑到走廊上偷偷抹淚。

[21]希望至此大家能明白為什么我們會(huì)認(rèn)為母親和父親是我們整個(gè)家族和許多其他家庭的導(dǎo)師與榜樣。

[22]我最后一次陪在母missing a beat, she said, “Jeb, I believe in Jesus and he is my savior.

“I don’t want to leave your dad but I know I will be in a beautiful place.”

[23] Mom, we look forward to being with you and Robin and all of God’s children.

We love you. ■親身邊時(shí)，我問(wèn)她對(duì)離開(kāi)這個(gè)世界的想法——是不是準(zhǔn)備好了？是不是很傷心？她毫不遲疑地脫口而出，“杰布，我信仰耶穌，他是我的救世主?！?/p>

“可我不想離開(kāi)你的父親，但我知道我會(huì)到一個(gè)很美的地方去。”

[23]媽媽?zhuān)覀兤诖湍?、羅賓以及所有上帝之子相會(huì)的那一天。

我們愛(ài)你！ □