很多人可能都聽過“校園欺凌”“網(wǎng)絡(luò)欺凌”等諸如此類的字眼，也可能聽過不少身邊人遭受欺凌的故事或是看過關(guān)于欺凌的新聞報(bào)道。欺凌，這個(gè)讓很多人痛恨的字眼，猶如魔鬼的雙手，伸向了越來越多的人。不論你是普通學(xué)生，還是無敵學(xué)霸，也不論你是無名小卒，還是明星大腕，可能都曾遭受過別人的欺凌。面對(duì)欺凌，我們?cè)撛趺崔k？是啼啼哭哭、一蹶不振甚至放棄自己的生命？還是武裝自己、誓與欺凌自己的人抗?fàn)幍降?？如果你一片茫然、不知所措，不妨來讀讀也曾遭受過欺凌的美國新生代演員兼歌手阿里安娜·格蘭德（Ariana Grande）給粉絲們的一封公開信吧。

I want to start this article by saying I just recently found out that one of my fans took his/her own life due to bullying. And even though I never got a chance to meet him/her in person， I feel like I've lost a dear friend. My fans are my family and I never want to see them struggle. It pains me so deeply to see how many lovely young people we're losing in this world to peer pressure and hurtful words， and I'm going to do my part1） to make sure this never happens again.

People tend to think that because I'm a performer and I don't go to a regular high school that I haven't personally been affected by bullies. But it's actually quite the contrary. I still have to deal with people in my everyday life， even adults who act as if they're in middle school and make it very clear to me that they don't want me around. Naturally， it's taken me a long time to figure out how to deal with that. One of the most terrible feelings in the world is knowing that someone else doesn't like you. Especially when you don't know what you've done to deserve it. You start to believe that you are the problem and that you need to change something about yourself to be liked， but I've come to learn that it's really not our problem， it's theirs.

Sometimes， people can be extraordinarily2） judgmental and closed-minded to anyone different or special， which is why it's so hard for young people in this day and age3） to be comfortable enough in their own skin4） to not listen to the people picking on5） them. But we shouldn't let them make us unhappy. If anything6）， we should feel sorry for the people who want us to feel bad about ourselves， because they are the ones struggling for approval. In middle school， bullies tortured7） other kids because they thought it would make people like them more. But if bullies were happy in their own skin， they wouldn't need to do that. It's only because of your greatness and uniqueness that people notice you and ultimately8） target you. It comes from their own fear and insecurity. We'll never know or understand fully why people try to hurt others but it's something humans have always done since the beginning of time and will always do. It could be jealousy， insecurity or just unhappiness. But in the end， all we're responsible for is ourselves. We have to remember who we are and never question ourselves if someone else disapproves.

This past year I did a lot of growing up and I came to understand and love myself in a way that I couldn't before. I will always want to be loved and will always be a very sensitive person， and I know that I will always have to deal with disapproval and jealousy in this industry and in life in general， but I'm certainly getting better at this and I want my fans to be able to be secure and blissful9） with me. Be happy with being you. Love your flaws. Own your quirks10）. And know that you are just as perfect as anyone else， exactly as you are.

I'm writing this blog11） because wherever you go in life， after high school， in college， in your office， at your kids' school， in the retirement home you'll move into a long time from now， there are always going to be people who don't like you. I was talking to my Nonna12） the other day， and she told me that she is still dealing with people in her circle of friends that give her a hard time. And Nonna said， \"You know why？ It's 'cause I'm fabulous13）.\"

And it's true. We're all fabulous. Everyone. Even the bullies， although they might not see it. All we can do is wish them happiness and celebrate our own. Don't ever doubt yourselves or waste a second of your life. It's too short and you're too special.

Love always，

Ariana Grande

文章開頭我想說，我最近剛得知我的一位粉絲因?yàn)槭苋似哿瓒Y(jié)束了自己的生命。雖然我從未有機(jī)會(huì)親自見見這位粉絲，但我感覺像失去了一個(gè)親愛的朋友。我的粉絲就是我的家人，我永遠(yuǎn)都不希望看見他們痛苦掙扎。看到這個(gè)世界上有這么多可愛的年輕人因?yàn)閬碜酝g人的壓力和傷人的言語而離開我們，我深感痛心，因此我要盡自己的一份力量來確保這樣的事情永遠(yuǎn)不會(huì)再發(fā)生。

因?yàn)槲沂莻€(gè)藝人，而且沒有上過普通高中，所以人們總會(huì)覺得我沒有親身遭受過欺凌。但實(shí)際上情況正好相反。在我每天的生活中，我仍然得和形形色色的人打交道，甚至是這樣的成年人：他們的行為做派就好像自己是中學(xué)生，還很明確地向我表示他們不想讓我在其周圍出現(xiàn)。我自然是花了很長一段時(shí)間才想出辦法應(yīng)對(duì)這種情況。這個(gè)世界上最可怕的感受之一就是知道別人不喜歡你，尤其是你都不知道自己到底做了什么讓他們這么討厭你。你開始相信問題出在你身上，你需要改變自己身上的某些東西以博得他們的喜歡，但我漸漸開始明白，這真的不是我們的問題，而是他們的問題。

有時(shí)，人們會(huì)對(duì)和自己不一樣或是與眾不同的人特別苛刻，有成見，這就是為什么在當(dāng)今這個(gè)時(shí)代，年輕人很難有足夠的自信和從容去對(duì)其他人的刁難和挑剔充耳不聞。但我們不應(yīng)該任憑他們讓我們不開心。甚至不如說，我們應(yīng)該為那些想讓我們覺得自己不好的人感到難過，因?yàn)樗麄儾攀桥ο胍@得認(rèn)同的人。在中學(xué)時(shí)，那些“小霸王”會(huì)欺負(fù)其他孩子， 是因?yàn)樗麄冇X得這樣會(huì)讓人們更喜歡他們。但如果這些人對(duì)自己有足夠的信心，他們就不需要那么做。正是僅僅因?yàn)槟愕某錾团c眾不同，人們才會(huì)注意到你并最終鎖定你為目標(biāo)。這種行為只是源自他們自己內(nèi)心的恐懼和不安全感。我們永遠(yuǎn)不會(huì)知道也不可能完全了解人們?yōu)槭裁磿?huì)想辦法去傷害別人，但自創(chuàng)世以來人類就一直這樣做，而且將來也會(huì)一直如此。這可能是因?yàn)榧刀省⒉话踩谢蛘咧皇遣桓吲d。但到最后，我們要負(fù)責(zé)的只有我們自己。我們必須牢記自己是誰，即使遭受他人非議，也永遠(yuǎn)不要懷疑自己。

過去一年里（編注：英文原文發(fā)表于2012年），我成長了許多，也逐漸開始用一種前所未有的方式理解自己，愛自己。未來我會(huì)一直渴望被愛，并且始終做一個(gè)善解人意的人。我知道，在演藝這一行以及在日常生活中，我也總是得應(yīng)對(duì)非議與嫉妒，但我一定會(huì)做得越來越好，我也希望我的粉絲能夠平平安安、快快樂樂地陪伴我。幸福地做你自己吧，愛上你的缺點(diǎn)，承認(rèn)你的怪癖。要明白，你和其他人一樣完美，就做你自己吧。

我之所以寫這篇博文，是因?yàn)闊o論你走到人生的哪個(gè)階段——中學(xué)畢業(yè)、上大學(xué)、辦公室上班、孩子的學(xué)校里或是很久以后你將要搬進(jìn)去的養(yǎng)老院里——你總會(huì)遇到不喜歡你的人。前幾天，我和我的祖母聊天，她告訴我，她還在應(yīng)對(duì)朋友圈里那些讓她不痛快的人。祖母說：“你知道為什么嗎？因?yàn)槲沂亲畎舻??！?/p>

說得沒錯(cuò)。我們都是最棒的。每一個(gè)人都是。甚至那些愛欺凌別人的人，雖然他們可能看不到這一點(diǎn)。我們所能做的就是祝他們幸福，也慶賀我們自己的幸福。永遠(yuǎn)不要懷疑你自己，也不要浪費(fèi)生命中的每一秒鐘。人生太過短暫，而你太過獨(dú)一無二。

永遠(yuǎn)愛你們的，

阿里安娜·格蘭德

1.do one's part： 盡自己職責(zé)；盡自己本分；盡自己的一份力量

2.extraordinarily [?k?str??dnr?li] adv. 極其，極端；特別地

3.in this day and age： 在當(dāng)今這個(gè)時(shí)代

4.comfortable in one's own skin： （在展現(xiàn)自己或與別人交流中表現(xiàn)得）放松的；自信的

5.pick on： 找……的茬；對(duì)……刁難挑剔

6.if anything： 甚至正相反，甚至不如說

7.torture [?t??t??（r）] vt. 折磨

8.ultimately [??lt?m?tli] adv. 最后，最終

9.blissful [?bl?sfl] adj. 快樂的

10.quirk [kw??k] n. 怪癖；古怪之處

11.blog [bl?ɡ] n. 網(wǎng)絡(luò)日志，博文

12.Nonna： 意大利語，相當(dāng)于英文中的grandmother。

13.fabulous [?f?bj?l?s] adj. 極好的；絕佳的