1.The Wish To Have Fun

When asked by adults，children will answer questions about what they want to be when they grow up.But the chances are they are probably happier sticking in the“now”and doing whatever it takes to just have fun and enjoy themselves.You can take a step back and let this happen as often as possible.

愿望一：開(kāi)心

長(zhǎng)大以后想做什么？如果大人問(wèn)起這個(gè)問(wèn)題，孩子們可能會(huì)作出回答。但是孩子們往往更喜歡專注于當(dāng)下，做任何能讓自己開(kāi)心的事情。大人應(yīng)該向后退一步，盡量讓孩子自由地享受當(dāng)下的生活。

2. The Wish To Play

If you're lucky， fun and enjoyment can come in a great many forms when you're a kid. Play is usually at the heart of it. Play allows children's imaginations to run riot， it gives a channel for com- petition， it lets them immerse and lose themselves， forgetting everything else. You can create an envi- ronment or design a schedule where， for a certain time， play is put right at the top of the agenda.

3. The Wish For Mischief

Children like to test how far they can go with adults. They revel in cheek， little masters and mis- tresses when it comes to prodding adults， and often taking enormous amusement in our great displea- sure. You can accept their devilish tendencies， and try not to let your temper fray to soon.

4. The Wish To Experiment

The Wish To Experiment is about testing， prob- ing， learning and discovery. You can let them try things and make their own mistakes， even if they take the occasional bump along the way.

5. The Wish To Be Accepted

No child wants to feel like the outsider， al- though many do. They want recognition， apprecia- tion， engagement and acceptance -much like adults. You can unconditionally accept and forgive them any misdemeanours， not banish them to their rooms for too long.

愿望二：玩耍

如果你幸運(yùn)的話，你在孩童時(shí)期可以有各種各樣找樂(lè)子的方式。玩耍通常都是樂(lè)趣的主要來(lái)源。玩耍讓孩子們的想象力自由奔跑，讓孩子們有機(jī)會(huì)互相比拼，讓孩子們沉浸其中，忘卻了其他的一切。你可以為孩子們玩耍創(chuàng)造環(huán)境，或在安排日程時(shí)把孩子的玩耍放在第一位。

愿望三：惡作劇

孩子們喜歡逗成年人，看成年人對(duì)他們的忍耐度有多大。在肆無(wú)忌憚地惡作劇時(shí)，成年人的強(qiáng)烈不滿會(huì)讓這些小淘氣包們樂(lè)開(kāi)花。你只能忍受他們喜歡惡作劇的天性，并努力克制自己的情緒。

愿望四：嘗試

孩子們渴望嘗試、探索、學(xué)習(xí)和發(fā)現(xiàn)。你應(yīng)該讓他們?nèi)L試、去犯錯(cuò)，即使一路上會(huì)磕磕絆絆。

愿望五：被認(rèn)可

沒(méi)有哪個(gè)孩子想被排除在外，盡管有很多孩子都有這種遭遇。他們渴望被認(rèn)可、被欣賞、被接受，渴望參與進(jìn)來(lái)，這一點(diǎn)和成人很像。你應(yīng)該無(wú)條件地接受孩子，原諒他們犯的小錯(cuò)，別把他們關(guān)在屋子里太久。

6. The Wish For Friendship

For the most part， children like the com- pany of other children; even the most indepen- dent and the most happy playing on their own. So you can make sure they have a small social circle.

7. The Wish For Trust

Children can be disarmingly trusting of people; even complete strangers. But it's like- ly that only those who have been betrayed or deceived will wish for trust. You can be hon- est， give them no reason to mistrust you.

8. The Wish Not To Work Too Hard

Adaptable as they are， children should be allowed to be children： play， have fun， experi- ment. You can try to remember this， once they've finished washing up， mowing the lawn and building the latest extension.

9. The Wish To Learn

They might not admit it， but children want to learn new things. That's why they play， explore， discover for themselves. You can let them be the human sponges they are， create environments and make games where they can make discoveries and learn new skills.

10. The Wish To Wish

Children want time to dream and wish. Let them use some of the school holidays to be idle， to drift， to dream. to wish.

愿望六：友誼

在大多數(shù)情況下，孩子們都喜歡和其他小朋友在一起，即使是最獨(dú)立最?lèi)?ài)獨(dú)處的孩子也是如此。你可以幫孩子們打造一個(gè)小社交圈。

愿望七：信任

孩子們可以毫無(wú)保留地信任他人，即使是完全陌生的人。但是那些曾遭受背叛或欺騙的孩子會(huì)渴望信任。你應(yīng)該對(duì)孩子誠(chéng)實(shí)，讓他們沒(méi)有理由不信任你。

愿望八：不想太累

盡管孩子的適應(yīng)力強(qiáng)，但還是應(yīng)該讓孩子做孩子的事：玩耍、開(kāi)心、嘗試。你要記住，一旦孩子們洗好碗、除完草、拼完新買(mǎi)的樂(lè)高，就應(yīng)該讓他們休息和放松。

愿望九：學(xué)習(xí)

孩子們也許不會(huì)承認(rèn)，但孩子們也想要學(xué)習(xí)新事物。這就是為什么他們會(huì)自己去玩耍、探索、發(fā)現(xiàn)。你可以讓他們像海綿一樣去吸收新知識(shí)，為他們創(chuàng)造學(xué)習(xí)的環(huán)境，設(shè)計(jì)一些能讓他們從中發(fā)現(xiàn)并學(xué)到新技能的游戲。

愿望十：做夢(mèng)

孩子們需要做夢(mèng)和幻想的時(shí)光。學(xué)校放假時(shí)，給孩子們留出一些無(wú)所事事、放飛思緒、做夢(mèng)和幻想的時(shí)間吧。