從容直面看顏的世界

從古到今，無(wú)論中外，人們從未停止過(guò)對(duì)外表美麗的追求。從“貌若潘安”“看殺衛(wèi)玠”“沉魚落雁”“閉月羞花”等成語(yǔ)里，我們能看到我國(guó)古代美人們因其美貌而萬(wàn)代留名。《世說(shuō)新語(yǔ)》里甚至有一個(gè)《容止》章節(jié)專門記錄美男子的容貌和舉止。再看西方神話中爭(zhēng)奪“最美女神”稱號(hào)的三女神、引發(fā)特洛伊戰(zhàn)爭(zhēng)的海倫、自戀至死也不忘孤芳自賞的納西索斯，以及如今美國(guó)電影網(wǎng)站的“世界最美面孔100人”評(píng)選，我們很容易發(fā)現(xiàn)，追求視覺美是全人類的共性。

盡管這是個(gè)看顏的世界，但這并不是美人的天下。不可否認(rèn)美人在當(dāng)今時(shí)代可以靠外表大幅拉動(dòng)經(jīng)濟(jì)，但掌握各領(lǐng)域命脈的依舊是有頭腦的人。能夠集美貌和智慧于一身固然最好，但對(duì)于絕大部分相貌平平的蕓蕓眾生而言，在全世界都看顏的壓力之下，保障幸福感的辦法有三個(gè)：一、全心全意地接受自己外貌上的不完美；二、每個(gè)人都有自己的內(nèi)在閃光點(diǎn)，顏值再高也無(wú)法替代，要學(xué)會(huì)欣賞這些優(yōu)點(diǎn)；三、以后天鍛煉出來(lái)的能力和培養(yǎng)出來(lái)的高情商完勝高顏值。時(shí)下流行一句話：“主要看氣質(zhì)?！睔赓|(zhì)靠的就是自內(nèi)而外流露的自信，以及頭腦中久經(jīng)沉淀的智慧。

本期“卷首語(yǔ)”和“最·專題”欄目的文章中都出現(xiàn)了不少描述外貌的詞匯和表達(dá)，同學(xué)們讀完以后可以回頭作匯總并溫習(xí)一下哦。—Roza

馬修·迪克斯（Matthew Dicks）是美國(guó)的天才說(shuō)書人、作家兼小學(xué)教師，著有《我的幻影朋友》（Memoirs of an Imaginary Friend）等四部暢銷小說(shuō)，其作品被翻譯成了25種語(yǔ)言。同時(shí)他還是搖滾歌劇作家、婚禮DJ、播客節(jié)目主持人、人生導(dǎo)師和西蘭公國(guó)（The Principality of Sealand）的勛爵，可謂身份眾多。他對(duì)這個(gè)世界“看臉”的風(fēng)氣感受頗多。他決定從自己做起，改變這種風(fēng)氣。于是他為自己定下了一個(gè)目標(biāo)：無(wú)論是當(dāng)面還是私下里，都不要對(duì)他人的外表發(fā)表負(fù)面評(píng)論。

I saw a middle-aged man yesterday wearing a pink shirt that didn't quite cover his1）belly， a pair of yellow shorts， work boots without laces and no socks. I turned to comment on his appearance to my wife， but then I stopped myself.

We have no right or reason to think less of this person because of his physical appearance.

A person should be able to wear whatever he or she wants without ever having to suffer a negative word about it from anyone， to their face or behind their back. Ever.

As a teacher， I have a2）principle of never commenting on a student's physical appearance，including3）complimenting a student on the way he or she looks. Instead of telling a student how much I like his haircut or her new dress， I4）restrict my comments to the things that truly matter：behavior， effort，5）determination，6）integrity，7）academic achievement， or8）sportsmanship.

While I have no reason to avoid complimenting adults on their physical appearance， I'd like to think that I could avoid giving negative comments of any kind at all times. I know this is unrealistic. Even if I can ignore a person's9）odd10）combination of clothing （and I usually can），there are so many other11）aspects of a person's physical appearance that might12）elicit a negative comment： unusual haircuts； numerous13）tattoos；14）excessive15）plastic surgery；16）gaudy jewelry；17）ostentatious18）displays of designer labels；weird piercings； overdone makeup. The list is endless.

Face Up to the Image-Obsessed World