◎文圖/胡楠 Text and Photo by Hu Nan
存儲“愛心” 支取“快樂”
——錦州市古塔區(qū)“時間銀行”志愿服務(wù)紀(jì)實
◎文圖/胡楠 Text and Photo by Hu Nan
開展志愿服務(wù)活動
東東喜歡一個人坐在角落里抱著玩具熊“若有所思”,偶爾呢喃一句。起初,東東媽以為他是個內(nèi)向的孩子,可隨著年齡的增長,她發(fā)現(xiàn)東東越來越不喜歡與人接觸,而且反應(yīng)遲滯,身體發(fā)育也不太好。經(jīng)檢查,原來東東患有自閉癥。這結(jié)果無異于晴天霹靂,讓原本幸福的家庭沒有了笑聲。為了給東東治病,大小醫(yī)院沒少跑,這期間,無論是精神上還是經(jīng)濟上都讓這個家庭飽受煎熬。東東媽經(jīng)常自責(zé),甚至說只要孩子能好,讓她死都行。
“有個患自閉癥孩子的媽媽快崩潰了,能不能有人幫幫她,十萬火急!”這是錦州市古塔區(qū)“時間銀行”志愿服務(wù)隊收到的一條信息。
很快,“時間銀行”將這條信息審核確定,然后開始尋找志愿者。錦州市古塔區(qū)石油小學(xué)的心理教師金冬在朋友圈中發(fā)現(xiàn)了這條信息。這個具有國家二級心理咨詢師資格的教師加入了“時間銀行”志愿服務(wù)隊,并與東東一家見了面。
“東東媽,你可真漂亮,東東長得像你!”“唉,漂亮有什么用啊,我只想讓孩子正常!”東東媽牽著東東的小手,才說一句話眼淚就已經(jīng)嘩嘩地淌了下來。焦慮、無奈、無助,是東東媽給金冬留下的第一印象。
金冬知道,想讓東東媽快樂起來,只有一個方法,那就是讓東東早日好起來。但金冬也清楚,自閉癥的治療是一個漫長的過程,而且在這漫長的治療中,需要醫(yī)生、心理專家、幼教老師、相關(guān)康復(fù)治療師、家長等多方面人員的很好配合。需要金冬馬上做的,就是與東東媽一起多陪伴東東,這樣有利于東東康復(fù),為此,金冬制訂了一個幫助東東一家的計劃。
“東東媽,看得出來,東東很依賴你,也很信任你,我覺得你很偉大,對東東這么不離不棄的。還有東東爸,他眼中全是你們母子倆。聽說這幾年家里家外地奔波,一句怨言都沒有,真挺漢子的!這種愛,真的不多??!”“是??!孩兒他爸人好,啥事都他擔(dān)了。他總說,東東有個好媽媽,他有了我這樣一個媳婦,要不這家就完了。我也知道他是怕我挺不下去,才這么做的,但我知道他心里挺苦的。”談話中,金冬在為東東媽進行著心理建設(shè)。
“我們認(rèn)識三個月了,我感覺東東有了變化。”聽說東東有變化,東東媽眼睛都亮了?!俺醮蝸砟銈兗?,東東一眼都沒有看過我,可是經(jīng)過這三個月我陪他玩,你不覺得他對我的存在,也開始關(guān)注了么,這就證明他在進步啊!”“是啊,我也覺得東東對你有好感,有時還嘀咕一句‘金阿姨’!”說到這,東東媽臉上露出了少有的笑容。
“東東,昨天金阿姨搭積木的時候怎么也搭不高,你能不能幫幫金阿姨呀?”金冬坐在東東身邊,柔聲細(xì)語地引導(dǎo)他。東東沒有抬頭,但卻將積木一塊一塊地壘了起來?!霸瓉磉@樣就能搭高啊,還是東東厲害?!睎|東聽到夸獎,顯得有點兒興奮,繼續(xù)搭建著積木。
金冬和東東父母都看到,孩子已經(jīng)有了“進步”。他們?nèi)栽谂Α?/p>
在“時間銀行”志愿服務(wù)隊里,有一個患尿毒癥的女孩,她善良、質(zhì)樸,盡管病魔侵蝕著身體,但樂觀的生活態(tài)度使微笑洋溢在她的臉龐。她叫小佳。小佳是在一次得到“時間銀行”志愿者的幫助后才加入這支隊伍的。加入不久,小佳便來到“時間銀行”,希望進行“存儲”。經(jīng)“時間銀行”聯(lián)系,一位患有眼疾的張阿姨成為小佳的服務(wù)對象。打那天起,張阿姨想買東西的時候,小佳就挽著張阿姨的手去超市購物;當(dāng)張阿姨想了解什么的時候,小佳就幫她找材料。張阿姨說,小佳就是她的“眼睛”。
翻開“時間銀行”的管理日志,記者看到,一項項服務(wù)雖小,但卻實實在在解決了大家的燃眉之急。
老孟家的狗急需有人看管一天,到“時間銀行”登記后,工作人員立刻搜索出有6個人可以提供此項志愿服務(wù)。電話聯(lián)系后確定了人選,老孟滿意而歸。
低保戶朱師傅是位患有精神疾病的殘疾人,在他病危之際,社區(qū)黨員張傳明、居民米冬梅、白素珍等日夜守候在他的病榻前,直至朱師傅去世。
盲人張德新的名字在管理日志中出現(xiàn)頻率較高。凌飛、張美幫他包餃子,張傳明幫他家疏通下水道……
張美平時以做針線活為生,每逢遇到殘疾人客戶,她都免費服務(wù),幾年來她為困難群體節(jié)省生活費幾千元,受到鄰里一致好評。
這一件件小事,詮釋了遠(yuǎn)親不如近鄰的真諦;這一份份愛心,凝聚了平民百姓的真情實感。
付出不圖回報,但付出可以享受回報,這是“時間銀行”志愿者們的堅守。
A Snapshot of “Time Bank” Volunteering Service in Guta District, Jinzhou
“Time Bank” Volunteering Service Team is a volunteer organization in Guta District, Jinzhou. Their management memo shows us that though seemingly insignificant, their services have solved people’s urgent needs.
Mr. Meng, a senior citizen, registered in“Time Bank” that a temporary host for his dog was urgently needed for one day. The staff in the bank immediately selected out six candidates, contacted them by telephone and picked one for him. Mr. Meng felt satisfied with the service.
Mr. Zhu could receive the minimum living guaranteeing subsidy of the government for he was a disabled person suffering from a mental disease. On the occasion when he was seriously stricken by illness and was dying, Zhang Chuanming, a Chinese communist party member, and neighbours such as Mi Dongmei, Bai Suzhen, had been looking after him in shifts day and night, until his death.
The name—Zhang Dexin, a blind man—could be frequently seen in the memo. Ling Fei and Zhang Mei made dumplings for him and Zhang Chuanming helped him to clear the sewer. Helps like the above mentioned are common in his life.
Zhang Mei, who makes a living by sewing work, always provides free service to the disabled clients, having saved several thousand RMB yuan for the economically disadvantaged group in recent years. Many neighbors praised her for her good deeds.
The deeds of seemingly insignificance interprets an old saying in Chinese that“A neighbor that is near is better than a brother far off”. The benevolence people in the neighborhood have offered depicts the true love of ordinary people.
It is a belief of the volunteers that “what is paid does not aim at a reward but could joy a reward”.
昔日田莊臺碼頭